Thats a good answer. Lets bck up all of this with the Bible.
The words of the believer in these two texts are different words. Read these two sentences.
Sometimes we feel like we know it is good to tell someone something, to help make them a better person, but don’t want to hurt their feelings.
Or
We see an acquaintance cursing, and feel like asking him to stop, maybe he will feel guilty, and we may even secretly like that fact.
Think about the difference here… Both of these phrases are selfish. The one where we should say something we don’t...the other where we shouldn’t and we do.
2 Timothy 3:16
16All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,
Luke 6:37 (NIV)
37"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
Read Romans 14
A special friend will not hold back on a gentle nudge toward Godliness. EVEN GREATER I say, If you are in a relationship like this you yourself will take reproof, correction, teaching, and training in righteousness that your friends give you with graciousness and gratitude. So what are these relationships? When is it OK to correct?
1 Corinthians 5:9-13
9 I have written you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— 10not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. 11But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother (believer) but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat.
12What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked man from among you.”
Think about this verse.
Now what does it mean to expel these believers? How do we treat them?
Matt 18:15-17
15"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. 16But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’[c] 17If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
How do we treat Pagans and tax collectors? (and drug users, sexually immoral people, etc)
Luke 19:5-7
5When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him, “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.” 6So he came down at once and welcomed him gladly.
7All the people saw this and began to mutter, “He has gone to be the guest of a ‘sinner.’
John 8:10-11
10Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
11"No one, sir,” she said.
“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
How we treat non-believers is a huge topic in the four gospels, my suggestion is that you read the life of Jesus and his interactions with people, as instructional. He leads us into a circular method (with those who resist) If we thought this person was a christian, but we see them sinning so much. We now treat them as a non-christian and move bak to praying for them, imploring the holy spirit to convict, we support their positives, not their negatives. We let God lead them. God will use us to effect their lives as we are a vessle for his to work in this world. We will find ourselves praying with them and doing Bible studies, and praising the Lord as they are convicted and change their lives with the help of their savior.
Remember WE just as THEY, are prodigal children many times over.